Awhile back, I watched this Ted Talk called The happy secret to better work. The speaker explains that happiness actually comes before success, not the other way around. The talk is only about 12 minutes, and well worth your time.
The same can be true in parenting. I've found that on nights when I just focus on being happy and enjoy being a dad, parenting seems to be easier and more "successful." When I think of success as rules, obedience, routines, etc. I tend to be disappointed.
This isn't to say that you can't do both; it's just that the focus on being happy has to come first. My happiness as a dad can't be based on outcomes; it needs to be focused on gratitude, love, optimism.
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